This "study" says nothing new to me since I recently got burned twice when I got friendzoned (a small, annoying thing in itself). A better study would be "is all hope lost once a guy has been emasculated into a 'friend'?" or, better yet, "how to get out of the friendzone"
Actually, it is possible for a straight, single man to be just friends with an attractive woman. Though the circumstances are rather specific. I have one female friend who I think is absolutely gorgeous and is one of the best friends I've ever had, but there is zero interest in me to have anything more. Sure there may have been at one point, but as you get older different things get to be more important. Case in point I'm approaching 30. I'm starting to look for more long term relationships. Suddenly issues like wanting to have kids start to become very important issues. That's not to say sexual desire isn't there, but there's a difference between wanting to fuck someone and wanting to be more than just friends.
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You weren't the only one to agree. Just thought that was a pretty odd stance to have. If you can't even associate with a girl on a friend level, how on earth do you ever expect to have a relationship with one?
If by friends you mean hanging out all the time like I would a close guy friend, no. I have many casual female friends I might hang with at social gatherings, but that's completely different than actively hanging with them. One thing to consider is that just because you have no desire for the relationship to become romantic, there is nothing, short of being a jerk, you can do to ensure that the other person does not develop feelings for you.
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If I am attracted to her friendship is not going to happen. Seeing a girl you like being happy with another man or getting screwed over by another man is likely to be one of the more painful experiences of my life. Only exception is if they are in a solid relationship with a friend of mine. I have had a few of my friends girlfriends throw themselves at me in my youth and it never is going to happen.
I tried to be friends with a girl once. Although it worked out for a few weeks I wouldn't have said no to an intimate moment with her. I found myself just wanting it to happen, to the point of possessing over it.
This industry has become 2 dimensional as it transcended into a 3D world.
The presence of sexual attraction makes for bad platonic friendships.
Men and women can be just friends, but the question depends on several chief issues: are either of you dissatisfied with your current (non-) romantic relationships? are either of you sexually attracted to the other? are ancillary relationships not a concern?
I'm not saying that platonic relationships absolutely cannot form under these conditions, but if so, and more likely than not, sexual frustration will be the result. Some can handle sexual frustration better than others; I know I don't handle it particularly well.
I don't think this is a matter of maturity or moral strength. It is simply being human; adjust your habits accordingly.
