God damn. I had seen photos of NYC's poorest areas in the 70s to early 80s, was already pretty shocking stuff (IIRC, some were used in Soviet propaganda, though the circumstances documented were most definitely real). The use of the term civil war also reminds me of
this 1972 BBC documentary ("Man Alive: The Bronx Is Burning"), on the FDNY's "war years." I have a lot of friends and family living and working in NYC from the 90s to present, never heard anything nearly as crazy from them (9/11 being the obvious exception)
I subscribed to Gamefan at that time and realized that they had a shop on the NYC/Long Island border in a town called Manhasset. Which at 18 took forever to drive to. It was/is also a super wealthy neighborhood. And down the street come this 18 year old, wearing a flannel, and driving a Chevy Celebrity. Yeah I fit in.
Diehard Gamefan, I think they called their mail order outlet? I remember poring over those old ads in EGM, before they got their magazine going.

I've still got my handful of old issues from BITD. I distinctly recall their having a real fanzine aspect, early on (with Computer & Videogames even reviewing them as such, in their Zines column) - lots of typos and scrappy art, but a helluva passion. Had a great interview with Treasure, right after Gunstar's release, and gave Mischief Makers full cover treatment.
Their later, more polished years were pretty great too... an editorial by Eric C. Mylonas castigating reviewers for credit-feeding Strider 2's PS1 port helped point me in the right direction (I'd blindly accepted the usual "infinite continues = no replay value" nonsense, up until then), and they had a killer Armed Police Batrider spread with tons of in-depth commentary on not just Raizing, but Toaplan and CAVE, too. IIRC, my most recent issue before I drifted into online forums was Cannon Spike. A Psikyo game (albeit one featuring Capcom IPs) on the front of a US magazine, just superb.
I grew up between Jamaica and England, both places where NTSCU stuff
were the imports, and actual JP stuff was simply mythological - I wish I'd not been so defeatist as a kid. Only got into JP stuff in the early 00s, and even now it still has an air of mysticism to it.
This had the not-unpleasant side effect of making games unobtainable and therefore cool in my age group. I know it's a cliche, but I saw a lot of unlikely friendships.
Everyone loved Contra, SFII Turbo and later Goldeneye multiplayer. N64 AKI wrasslin could sometimes threaten those same friendships.
Sorry to hear you lost your dad so young in life, I don't know how I'd have coped.