Life and what it throws at you, get it off your chest here

[Vyxx]

Since this topic has turned into more of a "life and the **** it throws at you" topic, I'd like to pitch in.

My life was just as boring as any other kid graduating high school at the time. i was 17, and had a girlfriend of 3 years. I was best friends with this other girl (had been best friends for over 5 years, but nothing ever came of it). BAM, out of no where my girlfriend dumped me. I ended up in a relationship with my best friend who confessed her love for me.

Fast forward, I'm out of high school, start working for my parents who own a self-storage facility (they have a massive mortgage on it, they're not rich or anything). I don't know what I want to do with my life, I was young, partied and drank my face off way too much. Me and my now girlfriend decide we're going to move in together, get ourselves a place. Only thing is, she's Korean. Her parents both moved to Canada when they were in their 20's but still carry heavy Korean morals and culture. this made it extremely awkward to say the least. We eventually got a townhouse, and things were going amazing. I proposed to her, she said yes, although we had no plans to get married for many years. Her parents do not approve.

Fast forward a few months, BAM, condoms don't always work. Great, she's pregnant, and we're both against abortions, so I guess we're going to be parents. SO, try telling that to Korean parents who only want their daughter to never date and get a university degree.

Long story short, we get married on November 28, 2008. We made the wedding after my 19th birthday so that I'd be old enough to legally drink at my own wedding (like that would have stopped me haha). Now I'm 20 years old, have been married for almost 2 years, and have a 1 and a half year old daughter (who's awesome). Me and the wife worked out asses off and saved up enough cash in time to purchase a starter home in a small neighbourhood, and buy a car. These last few years have certianly thrown me for a loop, but I think things are starting to work out.

Sorry for the random post.

[Skykid]

Since this topic has turned into more of a "life and the **** it throws at you" topic, I'd like to pitch in.

I did contact Ghegs to actually split the thread between debt and relationship stuff into a 'get it off your chest' thread, but he went mysteriously silent on me, so I suppose this is still the best place for it.

An interesting story of ups and downs Vyxx, but defiant love in the face of adversity, which is kinda nice. As long as you guys are happy that's the main thing.

[Lordstar]

Long story short, we get married on November 28, 2008. We made the wedding after my 19th birthday so that I'd be old enough to legally drink at my own wedding (like that would have stopped me haha). Now I'm 20 years old, have been married for almost 2 years, and have a 1 and a half year old daughter (who's awesome). Me and the wife worked out asses off and saved up enough cash in time to purchase a starter home in a small neighbourhood, and buy a car. These last few years have certianly thrown me for a loop, but I think things are starting to work out.

Sounds like you have a lot of good stuff to look forward to in the future. Sure you could say you hardally know the girl but my dad was married just short of two years after meeting my mum. had a kids a short while later and they enjoyed a great marage for a ver very long time right up until she died (dont say your sorry its acient history and im almost entirley well adjusted)

My beef with myself is i cant seem to hold a releationship past 4 months. longest releationship ive ever had was just over a year old. I work I have money, I am a well manared guy im amusing, witty, not ugly and some times a shoot my mouth off but for the most part quite a catch. At least it seems that way by my good close friends who know me and some of my grilfriends (that female friends not girlfriends) tell me yet when i find someone I like they get borde of me just over three months no more than five though. They either cheat on me and I always find out or they dump me and move on to the next guy within a week and stay with him for years even getting married sometimes. Now I know im not perfect otherwise I would be with the woman of my dreams by now but I know guys who are rat bastards they drink they never call they are abusive (both phsycally and mentally) to not only their girlfriends but close friends and familly but always end up with these really nice girls who have great jobs (able to provide for themselves) and are nice, polite and pretty yet end up with these complete jerks. The only gilr who has show any romantic intrest in me past the 3 month mark in the past 4 years turned out to be a little unhinged, moody, crying and minipulative little wench. When i broke up with her i was dating her for about 6 weeks and for the entire releationship she would tell me how she was not intrested in a releationship she only wanted to fuck and watch movies with me and wanted a no strings releationship. So a few weeks go by and she asks if we can be more exclusive namely not going out but wants to not have me and herself being sexual with anyone else (i know that sounds like a vanilla releationship to me) Which at the end of it suited me i was not with anyone else nor was in to anyone else. Two days after deciding this she goes out gets blitzed and kisses a couple of guys as well as a female. She says that not the case and then it went to shit from there would call me up in work, ask me if i was busy and i said i would call her and let her know, two hours later I would call her and tell her im far too busy, she would go balastic screaming down the phone at me telling me im leaving her hanging. So I break up with her when she tried to threaten me with well maybe we should just not see each other anymore than how would you like that.

I would like that just fine!

Thing is she mates with a lot of my new mates and up until a few two weeks ago people avoided me like the plague not inviting me to group events, Parties even going as far as to avoiding picking up the phone. All becuase she hammed it up a bit acting all hurt and winded. Seems its still going on now but now as where i tired to keep everyone happy and backing down im just a bit blunt. People are a bit shocked I am being that cold about the situation but i think I am some what repe4cted for it. I cant have everythign right and the more times she throws her rattle out of the pram pubicly the more it makes me look like im not the evil bastard who left her a broken shell of a woman.

[emphatic]

These last few years have certianly thrown me for a loop, but I think things are starting to work out.

I love a happy ending. Kudos on keeping that child, an abortion would have seem like the easy thing to do for most young people in that situation I guess. I have a couple of friends who got pregnant because of faulty rubber, and they ended up being awesome parents.

[dan76]

I love a happy ending. Kudos on keeping that child, an abortion would have seem like the easy thing to do for most young people in that situation I guess. I have a couple of friends who got pregnant because of faulty rubber, and they ended up being awesome parents.

That's not a happy ending - it's some kind of a beginning. Happy endings only exist in fiction. A lot of life's problems ( I want to say all... but I can't ) are self generated. It's usually because you want/expect something and anything that doesn't go according to plan is a problem. Or you either hold certain beliefs (cultural, religious or nut bag parent beliefs that were absorbed without you even realising it - and you now mistakenly think of as part of "you") that life doesn't conform to.

I've got a cold - it's my fault, I travelled on the bus... I'm in bed (alone) with time to kill - here goes:

Since this topic has turned into more of a "life and the **** it throws at you" topic, I'd like to pitch in.

My life was just as boring as any other kid graduating high school at the time. i was 17, and had a girlfriend of 3 years. I was best friends with this other girl (had been best friends for over 5 years, but nothing ever came of it). BAM, out of no where my girlfriend dumped me.

Happens all the time - are you sure BAM out of nowhere, no signs... really, c'mon now.

I ended up in a relationship with my best friend who confessed her love for me.

"I ended up", wow, true love never sounded so good - hope she doesn't read this. It wasn't something you wanted then?

Fast forward, I'm out of high school, start working for my parents who own a self-storage facility (they have a massive mortgage on it, they're not rich or anything). I don't know what I want to do with my life, I was young, partied and drank my face off way too much. Me and my now girlfriend decide we're going to move in together, get ourselves a place. Only thing is, she's Korean. Her parents both moved to Canada when they were in their 20's but still carry heavy Korean morals and culture. this made it extremely awkward to say the least.

Awkward for you, because they didn't want her to go out with a guy who was "young, partied and drank my face off way to much" - why should they.

We eventually got a townhouse, and things were going amazing. I proposed to her, she said yes, although we had no plans to get married for many years. Her parents do not approve.

Fast forward a few months, BAM, condoms don't always work.

There are other contraceptives - if you know condoms don't always work, why take the risk.

Great, she's pregnant,

Are you being sarcastic - I presume so because if you weren't why would you use condoms.

and we're both against abortions, so I guess we're going to be parents.

(could be the most depressing sentence ever typed) Why are you against abortions. No, really, think about it, why?

SO, try telling that to Korean parents who only want their daughter to never date and get a university degree.

OK, maybe they didn't want her to date you - maybe as you say, never date - but a university degree, can you blame them. Isn't that what you would want for your daughter. Even if it isn't, it seems an understandable goal for her parent to have. See how you feel when your daughter reaches 16.

Long story short, we get married on November 28, 2008. We made the wedding after my 19th birthday so that I'd be old enough to legally drink at my own wedding (like that would have stopped me haha).

Yeah, real funny.

Now I'm 20 years old, have been married for almost 2 years, and have a 1 and a half year old daughter (who's awesome). Me and the wife worked out asses off and saved up enough cash in time to purchase a starter home in a small neighbourhood, and buy a car. These last few years have certianly thrown me for a loop, but I think things are starting to work out.

Sorry for the random post.

I've just read this back and it seems a bit harsh - but it's not meant to be... really - I mean, good luck an 'all that. But think about it. If her parents read this thread then you would be a big part of the "**** life throws at you" for them.

Just stopping, thinking things through and having some self awareness solves a lot of this kind of carping. Ultimately "life" couldn't care less for you, you're not that special to be singled out for anything to be thrown your way . The universe is indifferent - thank God! (if there was one).

[drauch]

That was really necessary. It's a "get it off your chest thread", not a "be evaluated for every sentence you write" type of deal.

[Skykid]

That was really necessary. It's a "get it off your chest thread", not a "be evaluated for every sentence you write" type of deal.

Ah yeah, this is true. Vyxx didn't start this thread, I did with the 'are you in debt' thread, it just so happened that the way Ghegs split the thread was to put his (and only his) post regarding life, girls, difficulties etc.

Dan, I'm sure you kind of misunderstood this, but this thread is not really meant to encourage criticism - if anything it's about a few kind words and a bit of support!

[Vyxx]

Thanks Dan for criticizing every single sentence I wrote, and making me feel like an ass.
I don't quite understand why you felt the need to belittle someone like this.

First off, I'd like to say that I just threw that post together, and half of the things you had to say were just misinterpretations of my use (or lack there of) good vocabulary.

Secondly, I'm sure everyone here could easily pick apart your "life story" and put you down, you know, if you had actually posted on topic.

Cheers.

[dan76]

Seriously, it wasn't meant as a criticism - and if I've offended you, I'm sorry, that wasn't the intention. I thought there was some humour to your post, and I responded... I guess I got that wrong .

I tried to put it into a context - seeing the situation from another perspective - and as I only have what you wrote go on... that's what I did. Oops.

[Vyxx]

No sweat, it just seemed as if you were trying to take a jab at me, my apologies.

[Square King]

Aside from having to repay redonk loans, living at home (thanks to said loans) and despising my job, I have a pretty great life. I've put a large dent in my loans for being one year out of college. I'm a first-generation college grad in my family. I proposed to my girlfriend of 6 years while in Italy with a ring I designed. I'm 90% done with an album I'm doing with a friend of mine. The future in-laws have a guest house that badly needs renovation, so I have a project to work on. I need to work out more because this office job destroys me.

I know junk's gonna happen sooner or later (kudos to Vyxx for making it work), but it's all pretty cool so far.