Don't get married

[neist]

My only issue with "marriage" is that I don't feel the need for my relationship to get a seal of approval from some bogus-ass state or bogus-ass religion. Fuck 'em both, as far as I'm concerned.

The one problem with this approach is that you and your girl don't get the same legal protections without the "seal of approval".

Let's be overly-dramatic. Say one of you gets into some horrible accident and ends up in a coma. The other has zero right to determine how they're cared for, what hospital they go to, or even whether the feeding tube stays in. Should they die, there'll be miles of paperwork regarding jointly-owned posessions—maybe even a long, ugly court battle.

Shit like that (and a little bit of a tax break...though not nearly enough) is why couples who don't care about the pomp and circumstance still get married.

...I'm not saying "OMG GO TIE THE KNOT", but you may want to talk to somebody about the legal BS of marriage vs. cohabitation.

Yeah, that's basically the main reason we are doing getting the bogus-state seal of approval. My health plan can only cover her if we are actually married. When we try to buy a house together, it's a lot easier if we are married instead of just "living together".

Parties are always good, so have a marrying party isn't bad at all

Yea, you get a load of free stuff. Who doesn't like free stuff?

[undamned]

Congrats man! Just curious, how old are you?

Thanks! I'm 30 yrs old. That sounds old to many in their early twenties, but I have been very careful in my dating and there are a number of girls that if I had wanted to just "make it happen" I could have been married long ago. Not that those girls weren't nice or good looking, but I don't just want a marriage that holds water, I want a marriage that is overflowing w/ awesome and this lady does that for me She's very technically minded like me (she's medical, I'm electrical) so we can both talk about work and not bore the crap out of each other, and even find legitimate interest in what they do during the day. It was her idea to build model rockets on the 4th of July last year. Yes. Rock. She's very organized, which is something I need in my life, and most importantly, we have the some love for Jesus Christ, which if you take your belief's seriously, will dictate how you treat one another and how you handle difficult situations.

Word to the wise, date for at least a year before you pop the q. You will see them in all seasons, probably meet some of their family, and have plenty of opportunity to see how they handle everyday life, including not so desirable situations. She has come through w/ flying colors in all these regards and still impresses me

My condolences.
Don't say you weren't warned afterwards !

Thanks

I will be aquiring a baby next week. My wife is very pro-arcade-cab-in-the-house-making-lots-of-shooting-noises.

I can't wait for him to grow up some so he can play.

Look at the little guy:

Nice! My wife-to-be asked me when we were dating if I would want a "man cave" when we got a place. She sounded like "that's what all guys want, right?" Her dad is an engineer and he has his own cave for toying w/ old computers and such nerdery. The thought hadn't even crossed my mind, really, but when I got to thinking about it I said something like, "Yeah, I really would like a man cave!" Didn't even have to fight for it

21th June is the date

Great! Congrats!

End of July for me!

Awesome! Many summer weddin's for us shmuppers
-ud

[greg]

Oh no, Antron! You did one of those creepy-ass 3D ultrasounds. We totally declined on that for many reasons.

First of all, you don't really get that much better of a picture than with a traditional ultrasound. Sure you get to see the eyes and such, but the face is all smashed up against the side of the uterus and it just ends up looking like something from a horror movie, death metal album cover, or an HR Giger artwork.

Secondly and most importantly, even the FDA says that while there has been no evidence that 3D ultrasounds are dangerous, there is no evidence that they are completely harmless either. If the FDA issues a warning --- the very same FDA that allows factory farmers to inject their meat with antibiotics steroids and hormones, as well as the same FDA that believes putting fluoride in the city water supply is healthy --- then that is something to be concerned about.

3D ultrasounds should not be done for entertainment purposes but only for medical purposes. Unfortunatley it seems that most OB doctors have this done for the parents' amusement only. Not good. We declined because we didn't want to see a creepy picture of our daughter, and we were able to wait a few more weeks until the baby is due.

My daughter was born last week, and she's adorable. Most newborns all look the same and are often pretty ugly, and I'm a big enough of an asshole to admit if my daughter was not at all cute. But she is definitely adorable. I cannot wait until the phase when I get to truly interact with her, play with her, watch cartoons with her, and do all sorts of neat stuff that my parents felt were beneath their level to do so. I'm also going to do my best to protect her from some of the types of people on this forum who freely admit to watching anime rape porn without a second thought.

As for marriage, my wife and I had a long-distance relationship for several years until we finally got married. Adjusting to being together all the time was a difficult one, but I'm glad we didn't smother each other before we got married because we have all the rest of our lives to discover each other. We recently began our 8th year of marriage and we're doing just fine, and now we have a baby.

There's nothing wrong with marriage and our minds are designed for monogamy. The problem with marriage is that nobody is true to their word anymore these days, and nobody is loyal to any ideals anymore. I'd rather have people just live together if they are so scared of commitment because their baby-boomer generation parents screwed up the whole establishment of marriage in society with their stupid hippy crap.

[Shatterhand]

The one problem with this approach is that you and your girl don't get the same legal protections without the "seal of approval".

Let's be overly-dramatic. Say one of you gets into some horrible accident and ends up in a coma. The other has zero right to determine how they're cared for, what hospital they go to, or even whether the feeding tube stays in. Should they die, there'll be miles of paperwork regarding jointly-owned posessions—maybe even a long, ugly court battle.

Shit like that (and a little bit of a tax break...though not nearly enough) is why couples who don't care about the pomp and circumstance still get married.

...I'm not saying "OMG GO TIE THE KNOT", but you may want to talk to somebody about the legal BS of marriage vs. cohabitation.

Yeah, that's basically the main reason we are doing getting the bogus-state seal of approval. My health plan can only cover her if we are actually married. When we try to buy a house together, it's a lot easier if we are married instead of just "living together".

Parties are always good, so have a marrying party isn't bad at all

Yea, you get a load of free stuff. Who doesn't like free stuff?

Yeah, when planning the party, I was annoyed of how much $$$ it would cost... but after seeing the list of gifts, I noticed I would actually make a profit of it

hehe

EDIT: BTW if someone feels like giving me a Nintendo Wii as a Marriage gift, it will be welcome

[antron]

Oh no, Antron! You did one of those creepy-ass 3D ultrasounds. We totally declined on that for many reasons.

First of all, you don't really get that much better of a picture than with a traditional ultrasound. Sure you get to see the eyes and such, but the face is all smashed up against the side of the uterus and it just ends up looking like something from a horror movie, death metal album cover, or an HR Giger artwork.

Secondly and most importantly, even the FDA says that while there has been no evidence that 3D ultrasounds are dangerous, there is no evidence that they are completely harmless either. If the FDA issues a warning --- the very same FDA that allows factory farmers to inject their meat with antibiotics steroids and hormones, as well as the same FDA that believes putting fluoride in the city water supply is healthy --- then that is something to be concerned about.

3D ultrasounds should not be done for entertainment purposes but only for medical purposes. Unfortunatley it seems that most OB doctors have this done for the parents' amusement only. Not good. We declined because we didn't want to see a creepy picture of our daughter, and we were able to wait a few more weeks until the baby is due.

My wife is high-risk, and these were just 2 pictures out of hundreds that they took. They imaged and measured every organ in 2D doppler, on multiple occasions. I hear what you are saying about entertainment, but this was done with a Maternal-Fetal specialist, not an out-patiant money factory.

[Tempest]

Ugh sorry...that one is going over my head.

It's from "Eddie Murphy: Raw." He basically debates the merits of "Making Love" or "Fucking." He asks the audience if they would rather have someone say "Baby, we are going to make sweet love tonight" or to have your partner grab you by the back of the head and say "I want you fuck me right NOW!"

[TWITCHDOCTOR]

Ugh sorry...that one is going over my head.

It's from "Eddie Murphy: Raw." He basically debates the merits of "Making Love" or "Fucking." He asks the audience if they would rather have someone say "Baby, we are going to make sweet love tonight" or to have your partner grab you by the back of the head and say "I want you fuck me right NOW!"

Thats pretty funny. Most of the time I'm like that...its just that I was actually being a gentleman for a few brief seconds.

All kidding aside, there are many times I just pick her up and throw her down on the bed, and well.
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. we read a poem before bedtime.