Steamflogger Boss wrote: ↑Tue Jul 29, 2025 3:20 pmI'm also dealing with a lot of the care aspect so it's all very draining. When this all started in November, the doctor thought 5-6 years but I don't think it will end up taking that long. We shall see. Just trying to enjoy the better moments that still remain.
You have my sympathies, it's brutal seeing a family member stricken by cancer. You want to be able to spend time with them in case the precious time left with them is short, but if you're a fair distance from them geographically and they need care, it can be both mentally and physically exhausting. Really, you should be able to enjoy your remaining time with them as much as possible without feeling like you have to play caretaker, but it can be difficult because obviously as a family member you have to be there to look after them where possible! Finding a good balance where they feel looked after and have their needs met while preserving your own sanity is tough. We're especially fortunate not to be in the USA where any kind of healthcare needs could potentially bankrupt you.
My mom's had cancer for several years. Originally it was just a scare of breast cancer but it came back aggressively in her back and pelvis, fractured bones as it grew. It's apparently being managed with drugs currently; I don't know if it's technically considered remission but she's still going fairly strong despite it looking bad at one point like she'd die. We're trying to spoil her as much as possible and keep her happy, but it was tough watching her have to resort to using a walker when she was physically fit for most of her life, but it's kind of an appreciate every day you have sort of thing. We've gotten into playing Wordle as a family each day sharing what words we guessed, it's the little things that keep you happy and going.
